In this post she shares about her experience as a woman dating in Russia while learning the language. This is a topic I have a lot to say about personally as I had a Russian girlfriend during my time in Kazan which I partly credit with helping me learn the language so quickly links to my story below. Russia is portrayed to the West as a cold, hard place with some magical architecture, myriad vodka shots, and a leader who dances with bears and who, for some unfathomable reason, never wears a shirt. The people are portrayed in the countless American films featuring Russians as spies or members of gangs who continue to refer to each other exclusively as comrade which, incidentally, is a word that came into English via the Romance languages and is not at all a Russian word! Who knew?! Whilst it is cold, vodka certainly exists, and calendars featuring a shirtless Putin and puppies are not in short supply, there are a thousand misconceptions about Russian culture and people. After living here for long enough to catch a decent glimpse into Russian culture, here are the things that I want you to know about Russia and Russians:. Do I feel a small flutter of butterflies in my stomach when my date does it? You bet I do! I have firsthand experience and a bunch of anecdotes that suggest Russian men prefer women who will tackle these tasks with a smile.
2. The more traditional view of women that persists in Russia does have its drawbacks in dating
A man who uses body moisturizer, follows fashion trends, worries about the appearance of his nails, is not afraid to visit manicure salons, and only enjoys physical exercise in the gym, all gives rise to suspicion. According to her observations, men who have feminine features and those who look in the mirror often are regarded as the least attractive. As a result, the topic of male beauty in Russian society is rather theoretical and can be summed up like this: "The main thing is that a man should be a man whatever that may mean. At worst, as long as he is not too ugly, things are fine. As for biceps, they are appreciated by only eight percent of Russian women - according to a poll. Russian women are not in favor of equality - even if they complain about a lack of respect from men, about sexist jokes, and know what "emancipation" means. A more likely interpretation would be the following: They would like to have more while maintaining all the advantages of "traditional" attitudes. European women are often more inclined to work on both themselves and their relationships. Another paradox is that, essentially, a female in Russia often regards herself by definition as an object of adoration, says Chubarov. At the same time European women are often more inclined to work on both themselves and their relationships.
2. Loyalty is not cool.
One of the most enduring ones is the association of Russian women with something easily available, cheap or otherwise lacking dignity. Russia towers over all others. Then there are the Eastern-European mail-order brides - women seeking a better life outside the former Soviet Union. Obviously, this could be just user-targeted content advertising triggered by my Google search. You do not get a plethora of websites designed to market women to you! And what about pornography?
The dedication that Russian women have to look beautiful is just scary. For the majority of them life is like a podium, and so they have to look sparkling even on the way to get a newspaper or walking the dog. Also, during five years of teaching she has never appeared at school wearing the same outfit twice. Beauty is power and respect. The worst thing is that if you are going out with a Russian girl you will either have to dress up and put a lot of effort in looking nice, or everyone will be looking at you and wondering, how did a pretty lady like her end up with that slob? A Russian girl will be your most devoted friend, your best advisor, critic and even your doctor if you are sick. Ladies in Russia are caring and tender, and whatever happens, they will be by your shoulder ready to face any trouble together. The best example of loyalty of Russian women: in the 19th century there was a riot against the tsar, and the aristocrats who participated in that riot were sentenced for a lifelong exile and hard labor in Siberia. Their wives followed them voluntarily to cold deserted lands and shared the punishment.